This afternoon, my boyfriend of two years told me that he didn't think he was in love with me any longer. What can you say to a comment like that? In a matter of moments my whole world felt like it was crumbling at my fingertips.I agree that we have been having problems, and it has made things stale, but all of this feels just too hastily done. I am stupidly confused for many reasons:
1. He insists that he still cares for me and that none of this is my fault (difficult for me to believe right now) because he thinks I am perfect? Oh how perfect I must be! So perfect that he decides to end our relationship!
2. As he sits and explains his feelings to me, he cries just as hard as i do about the whole charade and hugs me so tight I nearly faint. What am I supposed to make of that?
3. He looks at me like he always has.
4. When I leave him, he hugs me harder still and not only kisses my forehead like he always used to, but properly kisses me, this time, unlike he ever has before.
I think deep down he's just as confused as I am, and personally think that he has mistaken to staleness and lack of spark (which i have also been feeling), for something more drastic so instead of doing what a normal person would and actually TALKING about things, he does the only thing he feels he is able to do.
I feel like a fool for not seeing it coming really, but I'm half hoping that in a few weeks he'll realise how much he misses me and what a terrible mistake he has made.
Dream on love!
x
NobodysHome
Hi, I don't know if you want it but my advice would be to talk to him about it asap, you will do eventually if it is as you say and it will save you both the heartache you will feel over the next few days/weeks until he realises what a huge mistake he has made. Me and my boyfriend have been through this a few times because of me feeling that things were going nowhere and not realising the strength of my feelings (we have also been together for 2 years....maybe it's a time thing?!?) The few times it has happened I have been just as upset as him (despite being the potential "dumper") and talking things through and realising exactly what it is I feel for him has made me not make the inevitable mistake that would happen otherwise.
Remind him of the things he says to you, how he has said you make him feel and how much he cares for you, maybe even add that spark that has gone missing if you can.
If this relationship is worth fighting for then do something to stop it disintegrating
I hope that things turn out good for you.
Many hugs, NH